Well, okay . . . only ONE thing for tonight.

I co-facilitate a group twice a week. It can get pretty stressful because of the subject matter the participants are discussing . . . so . . .

tonight as I was leaving I said something to the facilitator . . . “I’m sorry about . . .” and she stopped me and said some wise words . . . “You sure do a lot of apologizing here!”

She said it in a forthright manner – not judging or anything – but a bit incredulous, I think. So I said the very first words that came to my lips . . . “Oh, I’m sorry.” And, then we both chuckled.

But I have been thinking about it ever since (okay, it only happened half an hour ago, still . . .) and I’ve been trying to figure out why it is that I do it. Because I know I do apologize a lot – for things that either I have no control over – or that I didn’t do in the first place – or that bear no need for apology anyway.

A psycholanalyst could probably have fun with it – and with me – but I don’t feel like putting out big bucks for someone to sit in a chair with a notepad, totally not into whatever I’m saying – or “guessing” totally wrong about the reasons I might do this or some other sort of thing.

I guess it’s a part of me I need to work on – apologize if I do something wrong to someone – apologize if I am at fault – but if it is something that I have no control over, then just leave it to the world to sort out.

Sound like a plan? Yeah, I think so, too.

btw . . . welcome back to Linda’s Ice Coffee Blog!!! Whoot!

3 responses

  1. Linda says:

    **blush**

    You’re not alone with the apologizing thing – I do it too. Actually I think it’s better to apologize when it’s not needed than to never apologize at all.

  2. Sweetie, I think that most women do a lot of that. I know that I do, too. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Wonder what we could say instead? “That’s unfortunate.” Nahh. probably wouldn’t cover it.

  3. Lisa says:

    It’s because you are awesome and if you could take responsibility for and fix all that ills the world, you would. The apology comes because you can’t. That’s my psychoanalysis of you. I’m sorry if it’s wrong. HA!!!

    Luv ya!

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