I don’t know how to tell you. I loved him and that hurt you. He chose me and we love each other. We both love you. That hurts. I’m sorry for that pain.

Love, Trixi

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The Trifextra Week 12 challenge is to write a 33 word letter of apology. (salutations, closings, etc. not included in the word count)

In the nighttime part of my job the participants are asked to write a letter of responsibility – apologizing to their victim by taking responsibility for what they’ve done. It is hard for them. I think I understand a bit more now why that is so.

17 responses

  1. Amanda says:

    That would be so hard. I think it’s hard to think of those around us as victims of the choices we make, but that can certainly be the case.

  2. barbara says:

    thanks, Amanda. I must say I’ve had fun reading your entries.

    It’s been fun reading all of the “anti-apologies” that have been posted. See why I say I am so literal? I take the challenge and give ’em what they want. Sometimes I have a tough time breaking out of that. 🙂

  3. Gene says:

    Do the victims get theletter or do the writers keep it? I would think it might bring back the trama of the attack to the person recieving the letter.

    It’s definietly a good thing for the participants to write the letters, though. I can see how it would highlight what they probably want to forget and bring to mind the damage they have done.

  4. Tara R. says:

    Every thing we do can, and does, affect someone else… good or bad. Realizing that, and taking responsibility for it, especially when others are hurt, is hard.

  5. barbara says:

    Gene – that is a great question. The victims do NOT receive the letter. The men are to read it during group and then I put it into their files as part of their homework requirement. You are correct that seeing it could cause re-victimization. Thanks for your comment.

  6. barbara says:

    Tara – thanks for your comment. 🙂 I am learning a lot by working with the group that I do – and by reading and writing with the Trifectans as well. 🙂

  7. Lance says:

    There’s always a broken heart, always .

    I related to this on two levels. Being the happy person and the unhappy one.

    great depth

  8. Lance says:

    also, you should come do #100wordsong at my place. Its really taken off.

  9. kgwaite says:

    Oh, man. this is sad and powerful.

  10. Sandra says:

    Incredibly painful… I feel it through your words. Being literal is a fine way to approach this, and you did it well!

  11. Mel says:

    You can really feel the pain and disappointment through your words. Well written.

  12. Fran says:

    Ouch. Very touching and poignant. Nicely done.

  13. k~ says:

    So much going on in this, nice post.

    Apology

  14. Jester Queen says:

    Poor Robbie sounds screwed. Momma’s not even ready to admit that her new boyfriend hurt her son, or that she might have been responsible for the choosing part.

  15. barbara says:

    Thanks, Jessie. I am having trouble sending you email responses – keep getting mailer daemons 🙁

    Not sure what’s going on there – could be me.

    Anyway – wanted to say that’s an interesting take on the piece – not where I was going, but I like that it’s versatile.

  16. I am sorry for Robbie too. It is hard to be not chosen. It does not necessarily mean rejection, but for the one who hurts, that is quite difficult to understand.

  17. El Guapo says:

    That’s an incredibly painful story, wrapped up in so few words.
    An excellent answer to the challenge!

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